At this point you are contacting qualifying women and engaging them to discover more about them. You are looking for red flags and criteria disqualification. Remember, a red flag you don’t catch now will be one you discover later on. Find them now! Don’t worry about disqualifying women and moving on. There are hundreds or thousands of women that still qualify.
Now, how do you manage all these communications? You will need to remember what you said and to who. You will need to read their responses and send back emails that are not canned. Send a canned email and these girls will know it. Very often, behind the scenes, these girls are communicating with each other to tell each other who to stay away from, who was rude, who was kind but just not a match. If two girls get the same response they will disqualify you.
At one time I had an ongoing communication with 30 different women. It was exhilarating but exhausting. It was nearly a full time job! I called the help line for the online dating site and got an older, grandmotherly woman. I told her my problem – “I like them all! How will I know who to choose?” She just reassured me that slowly, one by one, girls would disqualify themselves and I would gravitate towards one. I didn’t believe her, but I took it on faith and continued. Not long after that I met my future wife and all was made clear!
We help you manage the engagement with the many women you will talk to. We help you track it, provide tools and templates and most importantly we provide a process that works. This is where we really help you avoid mistakes. Even if you started correctly, you could really muck it up if at this stage you don’t follow the rule so of engagement and disqualify girls who show red flags. We’re here to help you avoid these mistakes.